My 10yr old was bullied at school whilst happily playing with her friends. The bully spat on her and called her names. The bully spat on me and called me names too outside of the school after the bell had gone to end the school day. I took my daughter to the police station where I reported the assault, as the bully is over the age of 10yrs and can be charged. We spoke, the police officer and I. We discussed not charging the bully, instead, giving him a right going through and dressing down. The police contacted the father, and the father took his bully son to the station.. promptly.
The officer called me later on to let me know the bully, whilst totally denying all the spittle and cruel words that had been said, had broken down in tears. He (the police officer) did not mention my name nor my daughter's name, and the bully did not divulge our names either. The officer stated that he himself was no village idiot, and the fact the boy could not make eye contact with him when speaking spoke volumes. The bully was told that the very next time he is a bully, that he will go before a judge, and he will be stepping closer to a jail cell.
My poor daughter fell asleep at 5:30pm and did not wake until this morning at 6:30am. Although she felt empowered by the wonderful words from the Police Officer, she had a headache from crying at school and after school. She slept the headache away.
Today she had a wonderful day with her friends at school. The bully spent all day long sitting on his own, even during recess and lunch time. My daughter's teacher is so lovely and everyone is looking out for her.
Right when all four kids are doing so well in their own circles of friends, in their own projects and developing nicely at school this had to happen. Encouraging my kids and their friends to look after each other is paramount.
Sept 15th, incidentally, is R U OK Day.
This is a wonderful initiative that ought to be embraced World Wide. That simple question Are You OK? Does not cost a cent and may open up the flood gates for you to truly listen to what other people have to say. It may save a life!