When I was growing up we would have parties for any old reason at a friend's place. The parties involved lots of fun games, music, dancing and singing. Also, mostly, just sitting aroung gas-bagging (talking) for hours on end.
When I was a bit older, not yet 18, we would go to the Laverton RAAF Base to the movies, you would pay 5 dollars and see one new movie and one old. Afterwards we would probably go to McDonald's or to someone's house. We would listen to music again, there would be a group of about 10 to 20 of us I guess.
Then when I went to University, I moved out of home, moved in with my then-to-be-hubby and a mate. We would have friends around, watch videos..then DVD's when they came out. We would have some parties, mainly play billiards and play music like Def Leopard, Queen, Cold Chisel, Eurythmics.... old time rock'n'roll....good stuff!!
NEVER, in any of these times, did we see the violence that is in the news of late. A young man age 16 died in hospital after some thugs gate crashed a party and King hit the boy. He did not wake up after falling asleep in his bed at home... what in the hell is going on???
People driving cars, young adults driving cars.... too many passengers, too much to drink or smoke or whatever... plain disregard...please tell me there are still good kids out there who have fun as a group and do not cause trouble... I worry for my kids! it is not too long until Tom will be a teen..what then? I hope I am doing everything right here.
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You can be sure Cazzie, there are plenty of good and sensible kids out there who still know how to have fun.
We did the same kinda stuff as you described when we were younger. tho as I was an older teenager I know I did things that, if my parents had the slightest idea what i was upto, they would have been horrified and totally kicked my arse! That was all simply down to binge drinking. i was not a good older teenager... a bit of a ratbag, really. Thank gawd I grew out of it.
Yes yes, kids will be kids. I know my own three boys will somewhere down the track make a decision somewhere that I won't be pleased about. But for them to learn the responsibility of their actions is all part of growing up, as ferking hard and painful as that is as a parent.
I've made it through 3 Teens and one to go and my best advice is to really get to know their friends and their peer group.
You need to instill common sense and good manners but at some point they are going to make their own mistakes for it all to sink in. The problem with our modern age is that kids are so rushed into adult situations. When I was growing up, Society had a longer learning curve when most adults protected childhood..it was understood.
Now little kids are exposed to so much material (don't get me started on the Internet) and tarting up years before they are ready to handle these situations and little boys are getting ridiculous mysoginist crap thrown at them.
Watch their friends and give them enough slack to find their limits in increments..it's scary but the idea, atleast part of it, is to help create responsible citizens.
That's why it is so important to savour all of these cute kid years but guess what, you made it and you prolly didn't have half the information from your parents that you're giving them.
Time changes things...I suppose the world gets a little more evil in some ways. But there are still good kids out there..and I have no doubt you instill the right values into your kiddos so they will be just fine in the big bad world out there.
There are good kids all over the world.
You are doing all the right things. It is scary to raise kids. I advise a lot of prayer to get them and you through their teens.
My hunch is thaood people have not changes since we crawled up out of the swamp...there have always been bastards ad the like - its just that these days political correctness had enabled them.
Sorry Cz...my typos are shocking - what I meant was "My hunch is that people have not changed since we crawled up out of the swamp...there have always been bastards and the like - its just that these days political correctness has enabled them."
There are lots of good kids out there still! I can vouch for that, I know quite a few! There has always been bad eggs, we just did not hear about it as easily! People did not like to air their dirty laundry like they do now!
Mr coppens has some good points there. Kids will make their own way no matter what we do but good values and even more importantly, good communications with parents go a very long way!
Teens ARE scarey. Mine make mistakes. But as individuals - I really like my children. They are nice people who don't wish harm on anyone or anything.
Don't start worrying yet. Plenty of time for that later!
Me too cazzie but minus mcDonalds...we hadn't even heard of KFC ad only had milk bars / things happened you ould know...but it seems so much more and so much more savage these days...
I read today of a woman my age being bashed and robbed in her home and her attackers knew her husband had died recently...how do you figure out the mindset of those mongrels. I think the big 6 foot coppers who were able to give young mugs a kick up the backside BEFORE they got heavy worked...the justice system is shit now.
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